This is different for everyone.
Peace is the result of living your life responsibly. This means accepting responsibility for your actions. Living deliberately. Considering your actions and words before putting them out there into the world. Being Self-aware is an important component of this lifestyle.
I can’t tell you how to reach peace. I can only tell you what worked for me.
1. I Looked At My Relationships
I recognized that I was alone. I had so many regrets and perceived slights against me. I was broken and suffering. I decided to try to put behind me the people who had treated me poorly. I reconnected and sought reconciliation with people with whom I had experienced disagreements.
I found that some people are toxic. I also found that forgiveness of others doesn’t mean they are absolved and doesn’t mean I have to accept them back into my life. This helped me move on from these concerns. I now knew who was friend and who was foe.
2. I Looked At My Surroundings
Where was I? I knew that I needed to feel secure. In order to be at peace, I needed to know that my residence was my own. I had to know that I could not be asked to leave or have it taken from me. So I used my 401k to purchase my home with cash. No mortgage. I only needed to pay my taxes. No longer was my living situation left to the whims of others.
3. I Work at Not Internalizing
This is a lot harder than you would think. I had built up a habit of repression. Anything that was unpleasant was immediately pushed down. Bad memories were “forgotten”. I decided to deal with my feelings as soon as they manifested instead of internalizing. I am not always successful although I do my best to address disputes and disagreements when they occur rather than letting grievances build up. I would rather lose a friend today who is unable or unwilling to accept me as I am than to hoard up bad feelings. Creating personal suffering for yourself is not a HEALTHY sacrifice for a relationship of any kind.
4. I Looked To Make Changes
I defined what I wanted my life to look like. Then I identified what needed to change. It is a constant process. Every day I take at least one step forward. Sometimes that’s as small as eating a wholesome meal. Other days I’m organizing art events.
5. I Stopped Blaming Myself
I no longer see myself as a failure for being sick or needing to take care of myself. It is not my fault that I am sick. I do not need to hide it from myself or others. Pretending to be well takes more effort than is necessary. I can accomplish more by directing that energy elsewhere. I accept myself as I am.
My journey isn’t over. These are the steps I have taken so far. Perhaps they can help others get closer to finding peace and happiness.
Be Safe. Love Yourself. Be Patient.